sex with the pastor

Men need sex like Women need water. Just kidding, maybe not 8 times a day. (I had to insert a laugh for quite a delicate topic) But it is an essential part of the marital relationship for them. It's essential for both of us.

We don't talk about it because it falls under the "private and personal" category in relation to public/private/personal life separations.

However, I wanted to share with you what a wise Pastor's Wife once shared with a group of us younger wives in ministry.

Of course there are times when medical situations come in to play and I get that.

However, for a good group of ladies, being exhausted, frustrated, hurt, stressed out, too busy, bitter, resentful, angry, who knows what excuse can find it's way, if allowed, - it can creep into the relationship and then it stops occurring. Maybe not immediately, but the frequency stops, decreases or days are skipped.

I was in a small group mentoring type setting for Pastors' Wives and a Pastor's Wife of 38years, yes that's right, THIRTY EIGHT years married and in ministry, brought up the subject of "sex with the pastor"

She said......

"Ladies, let's talk about what is not talked about. Sex."

"I know there a lot of surrounding circumstances, but just hear my heart and apply what you can."

"If your husband signs up, agrees, commits to eat at one restaurant and one restaurant only; for the rest of his life ~ breakfast, lunch, dinner ~ every meal same restaurant, same chef~ the restaurant SHOULD be serving some food."

"If you feed him, he will not be hungry."

Wow. Those are some bold statements I thought, true but bold; because this is my private/personal life you know. But the more I thought about it, it was the BEST illustration I had ever heard on the topic as a newly married wife. There is no shame in have a healthy sex life and being the "pastors" or "in ministry." Newly married couples usually don't have an issue in this area. (smile inserted) However, if you hear it and carry it with you through out your marriage you will not have an issue 13years, 15years, 20 years, down the road either.

Just wanted to share what was shared with me. Now go plan something for this weekend!

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