romance in the fishbowl...
>> February 13, 2009
So (this is Sarah writing) we all know from personal experience that it can be tough living in the "fishbowl" of public scrutiny.
Kinda like being a celebrity, where people feel free to poke/prod/pass judgment on all your personal choices. Just without the cool clothes (sigh) and the paparazzi (thank God!).
Valentine's Day is tomorrow, reminding us about the beauty of love. When it comes to PDA (public displays of affection) every couple is different. Being "the pastor" means we don't always get enough private "us" time. It just goes with the territory.
Me and my PH? After every sermon when he's walking down the aisle to the back door, he always stops at my pew (I always sit second row back, at the aisle end of the pew) and takes me by the hand to walk out together. It's our little tradition. Makes me feel loved.
We also get a kick out of chastely smooching in the church lobby. We are naturally very affectionate, so it means we're just being ourselves. Maybe some people think its weird, but I've had many others say how nice it is, in today's world of marital uncertainty, to see that their pastor and his wife act like they really love each other.
So how about you? How do you and your PH handle public affection? Do you censor yourselves for the sake of the fishbowl? Got a funny story about how people react?
Bring it on, girls!
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My PH and I are not very affectionate in public. Never have been, even when we were dating.
One woman started coming to our church about a year after we had gotten here, and it took her three weeks to figure out that I was the PW!
Although we do not express much affection in public, we set aside one night per week as date night, and we are plenty affectionate at home!
funny that you post this sarah... pastor couple or no pastor couple, I HATE PDA. And I don't mean a hug, peck or handholding. I mean the type that makes you feel like you're an intruder (when you're not, 'cause you're in public)... like you're witnessing foreplay. I actually think it's rude and inconsiderate of the people around you...kinda like whispering in someone's ear when you're in a group. i think there are so many other ways to exemplify a loving, stable marriage without these displays. get a room, people!
by the way, i do think it's cute for your PH to escort you out of the church. it's a nice gesture.
haha, okay now i feel that i owe the blog an explanation... :)
when i say "chastely" kissing - i mean things like a peck, or a hug, or standing with his arm around me... i'm definitely not talking about getting all R-rated in the foyer. :)
but yeah - obviously there's lots of ways and means to express affection. just as many ways as there are pastor-couples out there!
My wife (Iveth) is usually with Jonathan in the mother's room. So I usually run into her during the potluck time. Concerning pda, we don't kiss in public. That's our private way of expressing our love and affection to each other. Especially after the church service, I'm completely focused on talking to and meeting new people. But yeah, I don't mind if someone is being discreet with a peck. But if it's in the middle of a group or something, I think it would be a little awkward.
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