healing and redemption: moving on

The best part about Cindy's story is the restoration of her marriage, a flourishing ministry where the couple helps other marriages in crisis and the hope that there is life after infidelity, porn addiction and sexual sin. But how do you get to that point? How do you ever talk to your PH the same way again? How do you learn to trust him? How do you stop hurting? How do you forgive? Don't you deserve to hurt him like he hurt you? Can you ever let him forget it? Will life ever go back to "normal"? Here's Cindy's advice for moving on:

• Talk openly about everything with your husband. You’ll find that when you allow each other into every area of your life, the breeding ground for secrets will diminish significantly.
  

• Work really hard not to get defensive or be sarcastic. Those two ingredients can really prolong the healing process.

• Don’t throw it back in his face. Ever. If/when he brings up one of your shortcomings, you could be tempted to say, “Well, at least I haven’t broken my vows!” That is a sure sign that you want to hurt your husband. You may think he deserves it. But, I can promise you that if you want your marriage to stay in a circling pattern and not heal, this is the way to do it.

• When hard days come, because they will, get on your knees and and ask God what He wants to teach you through this. He will not waste your hurt. I promise!