question from a reader: do you tag along?
>> August 30, 2009
Last week a reader posted this question on an unrelated post. We thought it was interesting enough to warrant its own post. What do you say, ladies?
"I am not a PW (I was a PK for 40 + years) but one thing I do notice about some PW's, is that they do not tend to go with Hubby when he preaches away. Years ago, we all used to go as a family. Why has this changed? It is something I miss now, only seeing a pastor and no family in tow. Any comments anyone?"
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We go when we can. But often we do not go when DH is leading/speaking somewhere else. DD is in school and so we are careful about absences. In addition, I feel it is important (as does DH) that DD understand the commitment we have made to our local church and that our first ministry is there.
Our oldest son usually goes along with my husband. My husband is now teaching in a Bible college (after 17 years pastoring) and is doing much more pulpit supply then he did as a pastor. I stay home with our youngest, who is 11 and has severe autism. I'm not sure I'd go along anyway, I'm not very into the Sunday morning service style of church any more.
I usually try to go if I can.... it's fun to meet new people, and I really enjoy hearing him preach in new settings, too. But I often try to line up alternative childcare for our little guys.... new church nurseries/children's programming can sometimes be pretty stressful for them (and I don't like leaving my kiddos with strangers when I don't know the screening/security process either!)
I go. Unless someone is ill, that is. I enjoy it thoroughly.
Since we were dating/engaged and for nearly 7 years of marrage, I've always gone with him unless absolutely impossible. I feel that it's very important for people to see him as not only a speaker, but also a family man.
However, as our first baby is coming in a few weeks, he'll be taking fewer speaking engagements outside our church for a while to stay home and focus on our family adjustments. After a few months, I imagine that we'll just keep tagging along with him. Ministering as a whole family is just who we are.
I do have to add though, that we are extremely protective of our weekdays off, weekly date nights, and other family time. Having solid and consistent "us time" means we are able to do the whole-family ministry the rest of the time.
I always go when I can, with the children and their school and sports sometimes it is impossible. Love summer, I am a teacher and I do most everything with him. Its our favorite time of year.
In our last church, I was the pianist, so I couldn't go! I didn't know how to say no, and I accepted the passive-aggressive guilt from others.
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