perk guilt

>> June 17, 2009

Often times our roles as PWs come with perks, like getting served first without having to stand in line at a church function, reserved parking, travel or members doing things for you or buying you things just because of who you're married to.

Not saying you should or you shouldn't, but have you ever experienced guilt associated with the special treatment?


Amy Brown June 17, 2009 at 3:45 PM  

What? This actually happens? Not in our church! It is rare that anyone takes notice of me or the children with the exception of a few of our senior adults. Mostly it's all about my pastor husband, who is wonderful and deserving, but sometimes the situation is a little hard to take.

rachel Larkin June 17, 2009 at 6:35 PM  

haha, great post, but we are in the process of preparing for our launch, which is scheduled for this September, so we are not at the point in our church where this happens. But, my thought is I don't think I'll have any guilt associated with it since I'm putting in so much hard work now! haha, but I'm interested in what seasoned PW's have to say on this.

Anonymous,  June 17, 2009 at 9:04 PM  

I have felt guilt (and overwhelming gratitude at the same time).... both of our transmissions went out on both of our vehicles within two months of each other. We were able to swing fixing round one but didn't know what to do about the second. Only a handful of people even knew what was going on.... but the next Sunday, a cashiers check from an anonymous source came in the amount of $1200 in my husband's name.... six years later, we still don't know WHO.... but are still overwhelmed with gratitude to the Lord for His provision in this way. And yes, still feel guilt.... especially that we could never even say THANK YOU!

Lily June 17, 2009 at 10:33 PM  

Our church doesn't do the 'you go first, PW'... In fact, there have been many potluck meals where I was so busy taking care of people that I never got to eat.

They are, however, generous in other ways. After almost 17 years in ministry, I rarely feel guilty for things like that anymore. Grateful, yes... guilty, absolutely not.

Anonymous,  June 17, 2009 at 10:50 PM  

Amy your comment is hilarious! I agree.

The only time I feel guilt is when it's perceived that I get priviledges when they aren't actually there. FOR INSTANCE - our school has school where my kids attend. Many parents assume that we get special treatment. However, I work really hard so that we don't get treated differently, but some people won't have it.

Star Forbis June 17, 2009 at 11:35 PM  

I don't feel guilt, only gratitude. If we never allowed people to bless us, they would miss out on blessings as well.

Melody June 19, 2009 at 3:48 PM  

I think it's a neat thing to watch the Body of Christ care for one another. Being on both ends, giving and receiving, is very fulfilling. I have seen God encourage our family at just the right time through unexpected gifts and perks from our fellow church members. It's a sweet picture of how God, our father, encourages us through His children.

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