SURVIVAL TIP #4

TIP #4: Just show up. Especially when your PH is preaching. 


If people think that your husband's sermons aren't even important enough for his own wife to be there - they'll either wonder what you have against them, or think there's no point in them showing up.

You don't have to be a party-planning guru or be in charge of lots of church social events. You don't have to be on every committee or even any committees if you don't want to. 

But you DO need to make a point to show up regularly. If you don't, people will naturally (even rightfully) wonder all kinds of things. Is the pastor's wife really a woman of faith, or is she doubting? Has the congregation made some egregious error so offensive that it keeps her away, and if so, who did it? Is the pastor's marriage having problems?

Sure, if you have small kids with early bedtimes, there are going to be events that you skip. When you do, make sure people know that you send your regrets and would have loved to come if you could.

And yes, there'll be times when you're too sick or you're previously obligated and you just can't make it. But let those be the exception to the rule, rather than the norm. 

Just showing up will go a long way toward building relationships and trust among the people you and your PH have been called to serve.


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