SURVIVAL TIP #12

TIP #12: Let your husband fight his own battles. 

He's a big boy. Act like you believe in him.

That doesn't mean you aren't going to defend him if somebody comes to you with a harebrained accusation or rumor.

It just means that it's usually wise not to act like you think he can't take care of himself. 'Cause that can make other people wonder if it's true!

Every pastor has conflicts with people. Every church has times where there's some issue, big or small, with their pastor. It's the nature of ministering among real, live human beings. Count yourself blessed if it hasn't happened yet, 'cause its guaranteed to happen sometime. 

When it does happen, be sure to let your husband know that you're behind him. Tell him how much you love him. Affirm his calling and his ability to handle the situation. Pray for him -- LOTS.

And stay out of it. 

If people come to you about it, tell them that you stand behind your husband on this one. Don't come out clawing like a tigress, even though you might want to knock some heads together. State your position, and then refuse to get sucked in.

When it's all over and the storm has passed, you'll be glad you kept your cool.
 
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